As an overweight guy I used to really struggle to meet and date women.

Let's face it, women assume any guy that approaches them wants to date them or at least sleep with them, even when that is not the case.

They give us that side eye glance that says, "Please, don't talk to me." even when all we want is to borrow a napkin or ask where the bathroom is.

I personally weighed 380 pounds and dating was pretty much impossible for me until I learned how to talk to women, use body language and leadership to actually become a more attractive person.

I learned something that was fascinating from dating coach, Adam Lyons... Women do not care nearly as much as we think they do about how heavy we are or even if we are good looking!

They tell us all the damn time, you just have to be confident but what does that even mean?

Well if you ask them, they can't tell you either.

They just know they like it when a man is confident and they also say, just be yourself and the right girl will show up. Of course, while I thought I was being my self and had no idea what being confident looked like in their eyes one thing I knew for sure was, I was overweight and while these women told me to just be confident and be myself they also told me they only really like me as a friend, so nothing these women told me made any damn sense whatsoever.

So how can we attract women who are attractive to us, even while we are overweight?